By Linda Mains
Have you ever been in love with someone? I know most of you have...but what if for reasons that seem beyond your control; due to the economy and everything about your life during the Holiday season your relationship, starts crumbling around your head. You probably wouldn't want to be involved with a person who isn't supportive of what your going threw during the Holiday...would you? Hopefully you wouldn't tolerate this kind of treatment from your friends either.
Who really cares about negative people? Negative people are always around to make you feel your worst, while you are at your lowest point, especially during the Holiday season. These are the types of people whom are constantly totting about everything that they have ever accomplished, while constantly bragging about how great their lives are. Plus they will be continuously putting down everything that you are or aren't in yours.
I have dealt with a ton of these types of negative people, so that makes me an expert in dealing with your garden variety type of Drama King or Queen. I know that all over America...that these types of people are comically and centrally located everywhere around us. These people have a basic need to destroy anyone that has something that they don't; it could be a person you're dating or a talent that you have that sets them off, you'll never be safe around them. I love calling them the phonies of America. They will tell you that they will always be there for you; but when you need them...where are they? They are nowhere to be found...while stabbing that dagger deeper into your back.
Maybe you are going threw some really rough times this holiday season, because either A. you don't make enough money, or B. you have been laid off from your job, while not being able to find another one this year. I can honestly say that this has been one of the worst Christmas seasons that I have ever had or seen. Why? Because I, like millions of other people in America, aren't making enough money. I have a job, but I've been sick and have missed days, so I have missed pay. I like many of you out there, that are suffering threw no fault of our own, either because of health and financial problems which have been beyond our control.
Yes it is taking a toll on all my personal relationships as well, especially when I can't pay the rent or I can't pay the people that are my friends, family and loved ones back, just like many people whom are reading this can't. We probably will get a lot of heat from the important people in our lives for not being able to pay them back. Especially when you can't buy them Christmas gifts, birthday presents or when you can't pay your share of the rent. I've hit a turning point in my life, I want to change...and I have made up my mind, that if things don't get better in my personal relationships, with friends and family, that those relationships won't be worth having. My son is now 20, and for years when the economy was good, I supported him and bought him anything he wanted.
Someone ask me;
"where's my son now?"
"Has he called?"
" Does he care about you?"
The overwhelming answer is 'NO! No he doesn't!'
Does that bother me on Christmas? Yes...but a better question is; why do I, or would I bother to do anything for him now that he's 20, and he can't be bothered to ask how his mom is, or even be bothered to pick up a phone and call me? I wouldn't! I couldn't afford to buy him a birthday present this year (threw no fault of my own)...and I explained the situation that I had been deathly ill and couldn't go to work. I haven't heard from him since that day, I'm sad about it, but I'm also angry at him, for not having the compassion to understand that his mom, is going threw tough times. I tried to borrow money from another important person who informed me that; "it's not my responsibility to give you money so you can buy gifts for your son...you have $50 dollars to live off of for two weeks, use that money to buy him something!" Wasn't that really sweet? These are the types of people that I have the misfortune of being surrounded by.
I really can't stand those people whom are telling you all the time that "you're pitiful or you're having a pity-party because you are having a hard time financially. What are you depressed about?" Who the hell are these people to act this way? Their attitudes really suck, especially if you're unlucky enough to have this person as your boyfriend or girlfriend. I'm not asking for people to feel sorry for me...I'm talking about all those unconscious-idiots that might be surrounding you at this time of year. Why do any of us 'tolerate' unsympathetic people like these in our lives? These are the 'me' people; people whom only care about you, when they need to get you to accept, what they are about to do to you. They make the nobody's friend list, and will stab you or me in the back, as soon as they can find a knife. These are also the same types, that will become your stalkers or the type of people, that you will need to get restraining orders against.
Yea I've hit a rough patch in my life...I have important people in my life telling me; I'm a failure for spending so much time writing for this blog.
Well heres my questions to all those people;
What have you ever done for anybody else?
Then I'd ask; "do people ever wanted to read anything you have written?"
What have you ever done that wasn't associated with filth that people care about?
Am I a failure for following my passion and dreams? Yea, maybe writing isn't on the top of anyones lists these days. But why do I have to hear anyone who claims that they care about me, telling me that if it doesn't make money its a failure. Who the hell are they? I love what I do...or I wouldn't be doing it! And I'm at a point in my life, where I want to surround myself with passionate, caring, loving, people. I am going to change my life, and I will by God as my witness; get the hell away from every negative person and aspect in it!
People are suffering, so I don't have the time to deal with these negative people, but I especially don't want anyone out there in my life waisting my time with their negative drama and B.S!
I don't care if you are someone whom I have never met, that just doesn't like me for whatever reasons you have. Or if you are someone that I care about who is acting negatively. Why? It's not my fault that there has been an economic-downturn in this country. It's not my fault that things are going so badly here in America. So I'm over taking other peoples drama because I don't make what they consider to be enough-money. Those people don't appreciate anybody that they are with, and never will! They will drag us all down...because they have no heart on Christmas...these are the types of people who are worse then the scrooge that stool Christmas. Most of us don't want to be around selfish people on Christmas, and when they leave, most of us are glad that they are gone.
Yes I am angry! I'm tired of taking it, and I know you are too. I'm sitting and thinking to myself; "what has become of my life?" How did things take such a turn for the worse. Look, I'm not the type to blame another person for how my life has turned out. I really don't want to do that, although I believe, that there are some people that not only make themselves miserable by the things that they do, but they also make everyone else around them miserable too... Personally, I'm really over everything! So it's only a matter of time, before I make the decision, to move on with my life. I have given all my loved ones years to change, and I'm also tired of not having caring and compassionate people around me in my life. I don't need enemies as friends or family because I need neither in my life.
I love all my readers, and I will not allow people to drag me down with them. I really do feel for all the people whom are having a hard time this Christmas, but who are also surrounded by thoughtless cruel and insensitive people this year. People that have the nerve to call themselves our friends this Christmas. My only advice, the same advice I wish I could live up too; is to throw them to the curb, and never allow anything that these types of people say bother you, or influence how you feel about yourself. Here's the thing about money people, to all those jerks out there, whom are throwing how great they are doing in your face this Christmas. While we are having such a hard time; while calling us all losers, because we have either lost a job, where to sick to work, or because we have jobs that aren't making us enough money to pay our bills. Tell them to shove it! Tell them that lone day they might get sick or lose their jobs, or they might find another job, that isn't making any money either. Then you can look that person in the eyes, and ask him or her; so how does it feel...except you could add; "I don't care, so how does it feel?"
I'm sorry this is kind of a long post but this is me venting...I've always cared about what happens to other's if they asked and needed an ear to listen. I've always made an effort to care; "I would never put someone down during Christmas for not making enough money, or for being out of a job. Unless they had made a personal attack against me; especially if I knew, they where going threw hard times. People that do that, are the types of people, that I have to deal with on a continues basses in my life, and it is making me feel like I am drowning. If the only way that I can get rid of all of these types of people from my life, is to change everything I'm about, and everything that I'm doing, then I will make the change. Rather then living my
If there is someone in your life that is making you miserable this year...then make that change and get all of those uncaring and unconscious people out of your life. Because like an ex-marine whose also an injured veteran that I know has told me; "you wouldn't want to live your entire life in misery, because you never know what day is going to be your last." I'd love to be able to say that those greedy scrooges don't exist, and that they didn't make so many of our lives absolutely miserable, but they do. They're out there, and they are making many of our lives completely miserable, while the U.S is having the worst economic down turn since the great depression. So blaming and putting down a person, simply because they are going threw circumstances that are beyond their control; is wrong and cruel to do, especially during Christmas. Come on people let's show the world the real meaning of Christmas...Christmas is about sharing and caring for those that our in need. To me that is the real meaning of Christmas; Christmas isn't about what you get, it's about what you give.
Merry Christmas everybody, and if all of the above is happening to you too...then make that change, because like an injured veteran/marine whom just got back from Iraq told me; life is precious and short, and you don't want to be miserable for the rest of it. So if anyone is making you miserable during the holiday season this year, because of factors that are beyond your control, it's probably better to get away from those people. It's really awful that their are people out there in the World whom are really that selfish, while having thousands or millions of dollars. Do you want to know something? If I had a million dollars; I would want to change the world for the better, and not make everyone around me miserable; while simultaneously making it impossible, for anyone to care about me. Hey to anyone who is reading this, and is like those greedy scrooges out there which I have described in the above paragraphs. God, please do the whole world a favor, and make the world a better place and change!
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