Written by Linda Mains
So here I am on a Sunday, writing. I'm thinking about, why I've been so calm in my life these last couple of days? Back in the day when I was 21 years old, if I were to miss two weeks of work, because of any illness...I would have completely freaked out. But now, that I'm 38 years old, I really don't freak out any more about stuff like that. Yes, I've lost hundreds of dollars by being unable to work. Yes, it totally sucks! But what am I going to do about it? Am I going to have a complete mental break down, because, of circumstances that I can not control? My friend Jerrill on facebook, sent me a story about a man whom was captured in Viet Nam and tortured with a rope. When that man was asked, how did he survive all those years of torture, he replied; "I learned to love the rope!" I have to say, that this year for many people, and including myself...along with some of my past employers, has been really rough on us. California has become the state of just getting by, and if you're lucky to have any kind of a job in this state at this point in time, count yourself as one of the lucky few.
I guess, I'm an expert of surviving unpredictable shit, but, when you feel at your lowest point...maybe you're even feeling like you can't bare one more single minute, of worry and doubt. Just stop and think to yourself, even the best and brightest amongst us, have a mustard seed of misery in their lives. Life isn't easy! The older you get, the harder it becomes. Some will lose loved ones and children. Everyone will go threw these events, and just knowing that there is no one amongst the human race, who won't be touched eventually by some kind of tragedy, should make you feel a little better. Actually, I was watching a comedian and he was joking about suicide, he was only able to pull that subject in a joke off because he made it about him. I was still pretty amazed that someone would make suicide a joke. He made a good point with his joke. He said it's never the serious shit, that makes him think of ending his life. It's always the little things. Like his girlfriend wanted him to make a pie for Thanks Giving, and he had forgotten about the pie until it was Thanks Giving. He then started panicking and thinking about all the hassles, he would have in preparing a pie, something he had never done before. So as soon as he thought about driving to the store, then picking up the flour and all of the other things, which he needed to make that pie. He felt like smashing his skull, threw his class dinner table. He said his suicidal tendency's came from his lazy attitude. It's a joke, but, I have known a lot of people, who have committed suicide on the fly, who really didn't think about the consequences of that action, all the way threw.
I feel like I've been blessed this year, while every ones finances have come crashing around their eyeballs. I'm still surviving, yes, and I am one of the lucky ones, because, I used to have this insatiable need to buy everything in sight. I was a shopaholic. I had to have designer bags, hair products, face creams and the like. You're probably wondering what in me changed? Well for one, I started meditating and quiting my mind. Meditation gave me the peace of mind to realize that, I don't need a bunch of crap in my life, that I will one day give away. Plus, there are so many more important things on my list of things to do in my life. That collecting the who has what crap, is not on that list. What's going on in the world and around us is on that list, also on that list is the realization that so many people are suffering daily. I did start to realize, that I was just lucky to just be alive at this stage in the game. With knowing that what ever could happen for me besides being alive, I should really be thank full for. A famous monk said, after coming home one night; "they stole everything from me, but I still have the moon!" All of your dusty crap, even your house or apartment, can all be replaced! So please don't give up on life, simply because, you've lost all the unimportant crap in your life. Don't lose hope, because you are in a bad relationship with a person who's a junkie! Just know that there is always a rainbow on the other side of the mountain. Even if one day you had to stare death in the face, due to a terminal illness, just know that there is a heaven, and a place for you in the after life, and that you won't be forgotten by the people whom love you.
I hear from people all over the country and from my own son and friends, that everybody is really struggling right now. That's when you really need to cherish the good times, and your good memories. Try pushing the bad ones aside until a later date. I used to get stuck on bad memories of people in my past. But I've learned to forgive them, and move on with my life. Why? Because, I don't want to waist any of my precious life, hatting anyone. The best advice I can give any of my readers and friends whom read this blog is, "just move on with your life, and leave these negative people behind, in your dust." It really works! Even if someone out there yells at you, and calls you every evil thing that they can think to call you. Who does that make look bad? Does that make you look bad? No! It makes the person who decided on calling you those names the ugly one. Why? Because what kind of person, is going to, waist their precious life on being negative! My best awnser for dealing with these types of people is; "someone who's not worth your energy or time! Is not worth your energy or time!" Yes, go ahead and be mad for a couple of minutes about whatever happened to you. Although do yourself a favor and after you're done, learn to let those things go. It is the best thing that you, or I will ever learn how to do.
It's funny to me, but, my facebook friend Jerril said; I was like an old school version of a wise man from the dessert. No ones perfect, and I've done things, that I have lived to regret. But has any of those things, made me want to end my life? NEVER! My life and yours, are the most important things, that any of us will ever own. Ever! So I've noticed that since the economy has not recovered, here in California, and people are really struggling everywhere here. I've noticed, that people have really become a lot kinder towards each other. A Mexican man stopped me, while I was walking from the dentist office to tell me: "has anyone told you today, that you are really beautiful?" I turned around and said to him; "why no, thank you, you've just made my day." Yes, I could have acted like a snob, and not answered him. But it really did make my day, because, I haven't been feeling, like I'm really hot these last couple of weeks. Why? Because of my tooth ache. That's why! Actually poverty is making a lot of people nicer to each other. I know that this materialism test, that I have been struggling threw for the last couple of years. Has made me, myself and I, become a better person. Plus it's amazing to me, what you don't need, when you finally take the time to realize what is really important in life.
I guess, I'm an expert of surviving unpredictable shit, but, when you feel at your lowest point...maybe you're even feeling like you can't bare one more single minute, of worry and doubt. Just stop and think to yourself, even the best and brightest amongst us, have a mustard seed of misery in their lives. Life isn't easy! The older you get, the harder it becomes. Some will lose loved ones and children. Everyone will go threw these events, and just knowing that there is no one amongst the human race, who won't be touched eventually by some kind of tragedy, should make you feel a little better. Actually, I was watching a comedian and he was joking about suicide, he was only able to pull that subject in a joke off because he made it about him. I was still pretty amazed that someone would make suicide a joke. He made a good point with his joke. He said it's never the serious shit, that makes him think of ending his life. It's always the little things. Like his girlfriend wanted him to make a pie for Thanks Giving, and he had forgotten about the pie until it was Thanks Giving. He then started panicking and thinking about all the hassles, he would have in preparing a pie, something he had never done before. So as soon as he thought about driving to the store, then picking up the flour and all of the other things, which he needed to make that pie. He felt like smashing his skull, threw his class dinner table. He said his suicidal tendency's came from his lazy attitude. It's a joke, but, I have known a lot of people, who have committed suicide on the fly, who really didn't think about the consequences of that action, all the way threw.
I feel like I've been blessed this year, while every ones finances have come crashing around their eyeballs. I'm still surviving, yes, and I am one of the lucky ones, because, I used to have this insatiable need to buy everything in sight. I was a shopaholic. I had to have designer bags, hair products, face creams and the like. You're probably wondering what in me changed? Well for one, I started meditating and quiting my mind. Meditation gave me the peace of mind to realize that, I don't need a bunch of crap in my life, that I will one day give away. Plus, there are so many more important things on my list of things to do in my life. That collecting the who has what crap, is not on that list. What's going on in the world and around us is on that list, also on that list is the realization that so many people are suffering daily. I did start to realize, that I was just lucky to just be alive at this stage in the game. With knowing that what ever could happen for me besides being alive, I should really be thank full for. A famous monk said, after coming home one night; "they stole everything from me, but I still have the moon!" All of your dusty crap, even your house or apartment, can all be replaced! So please don't give up on life, simply because, you've lost all the unimportant crap in your life. Don't lose hope, because you are in a bad relationship with a person who's a junkie! Just know that there is always a rainbow on the other side of the mountain. Even if one day you had to stare death in the face, due to a terminal illness, just know that there is a heaven, and a place for you in the after life, and that you won't be forgotten by the people whom love you.
I hear from people all over the country and from my own son and friends, that everybody is really struggling right now. That's when you really need to cherish the good times, and your good memories. Try pushing the bad ones aside until a later date. I used to get stuck on bad memories of people in my past. But I've learned to forgive them, and move on with my life. Why? Because, I don't want to waist any of my precious life, hatting anyone. The best advice I can give any of my readers and friends whom read this blog is, "just move on with your life, and leave these negative people behind, in your dust." It really works! Even if someone out there yells at you, and calls you every evil thing that they can think to call you. Who does that make look bad? Does that make you look bad? No! It makes the person who decided on calling you those names the ugly one. Why? Because what kind of person, is going to, waist their precious life on being negative! My best awnser for dealing with these types of people is; "someone who's not worth your energy or time! Is not worth your energy or time!" Yes, go ahead and be mad for a couple of minutes about whatever happened to you. Although do yourself a favor and after you're done, learn to let those things go. It is the best thing that you, or I will ever learn how to do.
It's funny to me, but, my facebook friend Jerril said; I was like an old school version of a wise man from the dessert. No ones perfect, and I've done things, that I have lived to regret. But has any of those things, made me want to end my life? NEVER! My life and yours, are the most important things, that any of us will ever own. Ever! So I've noticed that since the economy has not recovered, here in California, and people are really struggling everywhere here. I've noticed, that people have really become a lot kinder towards each other. A Mexican man stopped me, while I was walking from the dentist office to tell me: "has anyone told you today, that you are really beautiful?" I turned around and said to him; "why no, thank you, you've just made my day." Yes, I could have acted like a snob, and not answered him. But it really did make my day, because, I haven't been feeling, like I'm really hot these last couple of weeks. Why? Because of my tooth ache. That's why! Actually poverty is making a lot of people nicer to each other. I know that this materialism test, that I have been struggling threw for the last couple of years. Has made me, myself and I, become a better person. Plus it's amazing to me, what you don't need, when you finally take the time to realize what is really important in life.
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linda you rock this so great
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